It is not all black and white. Some of us find it harder to see than others.
After all, isn’t that what the grey is? Black and white coming together. And existing together as something new.
Let’s agree, most of us want to have our cake and eat it. We want it both ways, we want mutually exclusive things.
We want a great career, an amazing social life, entertaining hobbies and enough sleep. We want commitments but we want our freedom too.
The FOMO is real. We want it ALL.
Well, some good news here. Physics says that’s possible. If you’ve ever heard of the Schrödinger’s Cat, you get the idea (If you haven’t, check out this sweet and short article by National Geographic). The cat is both dead and alive until you open the box and observe just either.
And here’s where the magic ends. Once you observe things, they become just one of the (multiple) options they could have been. And observing things changes them. Your perception usually shapes them into what’s familiar or needed.
So it seems we can have it all, until… we have just some. Could be mutually exclusive, too. Everyone made fun of UK’s PM Boris Johnson when he said go out but stay home, we need a heard immunity but we need a lockdown, you only go outside if essential but have your meal in a restaurant.
We are faced with such decisions most of the time. It’s a balancing act. It is about understanding that something can be both sides of the coin at the same time.
And it is, more than anything, about accepting it. About respecting the duality of our world. Of your own world. You can be both good and bad, capable and incapable, enough and not enough. And that’s okay. We’ve been shown everything changes. Sometimes way too quickly.
Only if you are willing to behold the extremes, do you find the middle ground.
Therefore, you are not in a position to decide your future, you are in a superposition.
Just prepare, once it comes to actually living it, you would need to prioritize and make trade-offs.
Until then, you have it all. Right here, right now.